Ahhh the BNI, I never joined but I have been to two seperate chapters as a guest.
And both chapters were worlds apart from eachother - the first that I visited was very relaxed (minimal pressure to join) with a "here is an empty form, you're aware of what we offer and you know where we are if you wish to proceed" type of approach.
The second chapter that I visited was nothing but outright pressure and if you dared to say "Let me go and sleep on it" you would be "while looped" and reminded of how "the group could really use your skills and you will instantly have 27 business partners watching YOUR back!" - When I asked to "take the empty form away with me to think over it" I was met with "Oh no, I cannot let you do that I'm afraid, are you sure you don't want to just fill it out right now?" ....."Not really".
It's not all been bad though, as I have made some useful contacts just from my two visits. Oh and of course, I'm seriously not a morning person!
Not only that, when I think of how I am obliged to refer work to the rest of the group - I would seriously fall behind here (I don't get many people pestering me for a plumber/cigarette lighter repairman!)
By no means am I putting down the concept, I'm sure it has proven to work for many - but for the cost (and weekly running costs which you are expected to contribute - i.e. £10/£20 for venue hire etc.) and considering the fact that your attendance is monitored like a school child (not to mention having to sit around a group of people scoffing revolting greasy fry ups every Wednesday morning) is something that I couldn't bare to stomach, let alone keep up with!